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Why You Should Date Yourself

I’m currently in the best relationship of my life… with myself.

I’m currently in the best relationship of my life… with myself. This doesn’t mean I’m going to run off and be one of those women who marries herself (honestly, I never understood that), but I am dating myself and I’m very happy doing so.

Being newly single, I have a lot of alone time on my hands. I love being alone; it's in being alone that I flourish most, but it’s hard to be single for the first time in a few years and it’s even harder to do all the things you love and used to do with your partner alone. But I’ve decided not to sit around and miss out on the things I want to do simply because my partner bailed on me. Instead, I’m dating myself, and it’s the best thing for me at this juncture in your life.

If you’re single and sulking, quit it. Instead date yourself, and here’s why you should.

1. You get to go on the most fantastic dates.

Last week I took myself to The Plaza for a late lunch, then I went to The Metropolitan Opera to see La Bohème. It was, by far, the greatest, fanciest date of my life. Sure, I’ve had some nice dates with guys in my life, too, but not like this. Not only was it a great date, but I was dressed up, I splurged for a box seat, and cried my eyes out – in a good way – because that’s what Puccini does to me. I’ve yet to meet a man who appreciates Puccini the way I do. Although, I might be looking in the wrong places.

Why You Should Date Yourself

2. You can double date with your fellow single friends and really make a night of it.

I have friend who is also dating herself, so we go on double dates. Sometimes it’s just dinner, other times it’s a fancy art gallery opening or an event at one of the museums. There's no end to the places we explore on our double dates and it makes for double the fun on nights when we don't feel like being alone.

3. You’re not missing out on things you want to do.

I feel like when people are single, if they can’t find a friend to do something they want to do with, they’ll stay home and skip it. That’s no way to live. Just because you don’t have anyone to go to the movies with, or a weekend away, or to try that new restaurant, doesn’t mean you should stay home. Life is too short to miss out all the things you want to do; in dating yourself, you’re getting out there.

4. You learn to love again.

Why You Should Date Yourself

I know it’s totally cliché, but you really can’t love anyone else until you learn to love yourself. When we spend time alone doing what we love, we learn to love ourselves again; something that’s so important for those who come out of a relationship feeling less than stellar about themselves. You need to get your self-respect and love back, before you can even think about dating someone besides yourself.

5. You get to be the decider.

There’s nothing worse than the whole, “What do you want to do?” “I don’t know; what do you want to do?” Ugh. Come on. When you’re dating yourself, you call the shots and you decide what you’ll do. No need for that “What should we do?” dance.

6. You appreciate more when you’re rolling solo.

Whether it’s dinner, a movie, or a stroll through a park, you appreciate things more when you're alone, because you’re more aware of your surroundings. You see things differently and clearly, without the distraction of someone else. If you put your phone away, you’ll find that you’re able to take everything in and experience the world in ways you never have before.

7. You’re a sure thing.

Why You Should Date Yourself

At the end of the night, I know I’m a sure thing. I know that all I have to do is reach into my goodie drawer and I’m good go. I know that my vibrator will never fail me, guys on there other hand… well, that’s not exactly a guarantee. Dinner, a movie, AND an orgasm before bed? I'm totally the best date of my life.