Whether you’re new to dating or a veteran, there’s a general knowledge of what makes for a great first date, compared to a bad one. A great first date is one where no one cries or mourns a past relationship, because duh. A bad first date is one where someone cries, there’s a heated argument about politics, and the dinner table is flipped.
But then there are those in the middle that aren’t good or bad per se, but do leave a lasting negative taste in our mouths, because OMG your date just said what?! Because that can be the case and you want to avoid upsetting the charming person across the table from you, here are 10 things you should never, ever, say on a first date – no matter if you’re a man or a woman.
1. “You’re ordering that?”
True story: NO one likes to be judged for the food that they order on a date. If someone wants to order a whole damn pizza and not share it, then that's life. Don't judge.
2. “You look really different from your photo.”
Saying this can be interpreted in two ways: You look better than your photo or you look worse than your photo. Even if you mean it as a compliment, it doesn’t mean it will be taken that way.
3. “So my ex…”
No. No. No. Never bring up anything about your ex – good, bad, or otherwise.
4. “Why are you single?”
I realize you want to figure out as quickly as possibly what’s “wrong” with this person, but give it a couple dates instead of asking that loaded question.
5. “What’s your number?”
I was actually asked this on a first date once. I was shocked. And I’m rarely shocked. But yeah, don’t ever ask anyone how many sexual partners they’ve had. It’s none of your business. It will actually never be any of your business.
6. “You should probably tell me all your bad qualities now.”
I mean, can we get to dessert first? Besides, everyone has bad qualities. EVERYONE.
7. “I’m not really looking for anything serious at the moment.”
Great! Thanks for your honesty, but exactly why are you on the date then?! Morbid curiosity?
8. “How many dates do you go on a week?
Kind of like asking someone their number, this is also a round about way of judging them. Unless your first date goes awesome and you’re suddenly in a monogamous relationship, how many dates anyone goes on a week isn’t for you to know.
9. “This is going better than I expected.”
Yikes. So basically you’re saying that dragging yourself off the couch tonight was a total waste. Go you!
10. “So… are we going to have a good night kiss or… sex?”
Open mouth. Insert foot. Now.