With the New Year just a few weeks away, it’s time to start thinking about resolutions. What will you resolve to change next year? Of course there will be those who will, inevitably, resolve to lose weight or get to work on time (finally!), or stop leaving their chewed up gum under public tables, but what about your love life? Unless you’re a total anomaly, there’s a good chance that your dating life could use an overhaul, too.
If you’re not sure if you need to make some changes and resolutions for your dating life, then check this out. Some of these are bound to ring a bell.
1. To quit giving people so many chances.
When it comes to giving people chances, you should always stop after two. If people can’t get it together after two chances, then they’re undeserving of getting a third chance. Basically, your life philosophy, especially when it comes to dating should be, “Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me.” Learn it, love it, live it.
2. To stop dating emotionally unavailable people.
We're all guilty of dating people who are emotionally unavailable at one point or another. We tend to do this because we think we can change them, but here’s some shocking news: You can’t. You can’t make someone who’s not in a place in their life to be emotionally committed to all of a sudden be what you want them to be. That’s not how things work.
3. To put the over-analysis of text messages on hold.
I know, I know! You just want to read so many things into those text messages you get from the people you’re dating! What are they trying to say? What does it mean if they don’t use an exclamation point? Why haven’t they texted you back, when you know they have their phone right there in front of them?! Now think about how less stressful life would be if you didn’t do that… are you picturing it? So resolve to stop that nonsense for 2016.
4. To cease spending time with people who treat your heart like monkey meat.
Remember the heartbreaking scene in Girls when Hannah finally realizes the Adam isn’t giving her what she deserves? “I have been dating someone who treats my heart like it's monkey meat. I feel like a delusional invisible person half the time, so I need to learn what it's like to be treated well before it's too late for me,” she says. My point aside from taking this opportunity to quote Girls? Resolve to cut those from your life who treat your heart like monkey meat.
5. To try a new dating app.
If you’ve been stuck in a Tinder rut, try Coffee Meets Bagel, or Hinge, or Bumble, or whatever else is out there. With so many dating apps to choose from, you might as well try a new one, if the one you’ve been using primarily isn’t making your dating life any easier.
6. To switch up your usual first date plans.
For many of us, we have a go-to first date plan or place. But this year, why don’t you resolve to break out of your comfort zone and try something new. Instead of meeting for dinner, try meeting for a painting class (they do have alcohol at those things, if you think you’ll need it). Or instead of coffee at Starbucks, maybe a wine and cheese picnic in the park. As long as your date involves getting to know each other, that’s what really matters, so don’t be afraid to get creative with your first dates.
7. To give up on your “type.”
I get it; we all have a type. However, as much as we think we have one specific type, in giving other people a chance, as in people who are not your “type,” you just might find out that you have – wait for it – more than one type! In other words, along with spicing up your regular ol’ first dates, spice up your regular ol’ type, too.
8. To meet people IRL.
In a world where we’re all online all the time, the idea of meeting someone IRL seems, well, weird. But, as surprising as this may seem, people still meet in real life. If you don’t know the last time you met someone in real life, then make that a dating resolution. Granted, this is going to mean actually talking to people, but you can do that! You just might feel out of a practice thanks to technology, but it’s like riding a bike: You never truly forget.